It is always a good idea, as social beings that we are, to be aware of the small habits that make us difficult people, that is, unfriendly or perhaps with few social skills.
This can be useful when you are out with friends, meeting new people, and also when spending a lot of time with your co-workers.
Ask yourself, are you a nice, kind and helpful person? Or do you push people away Do you have any of these habits as usual?
Being cranky when you’re stressed is one thing, but making the whole thing an argument will make you an annoyance to people.
It is impossible to talk to a person who always wants to be right and who looks for a ‘but’ at all costs. This habit is a sure way for people to walk away from you, sooner or later.
Honesty is always one of the social rules par excellence. But we all have that friend (or we are that friend) who is honest as hell.
Those of us who are “honest at all costs” are often just looking for an excuse to say what we want. This usually results in rude comments and hurt feelings, and it’s just not right.
Although there are awkward silences, those that you want to fill with a question or jokes, it is important to respect them because in them people process information, think of solutions or simply release stress.
You don’t have to be happy 24/7, but it’s a good idea to monitor how many negative comments you contribute to a conversation.
Negativity is one of worst habits that a person can have, they will make you a toxic person, without dreams or aspirations and nobody wants to be next to such a person.
If someone asks for your opinion or criticism, go ahead and express your ideas, but if you do it indiscriminately, it is an action that not many accept.
It’s normal to get excited when someone speaks and exposes their ideas, but when you notice that the other starts to get frustrated when you interrupt, it’s because you do it too fast.
Sometimes plans fail, sometimes situations don’t turn out as you expect or as you planned; When this happens, he is waiting for your reaction. Do you automatically get upset or do you know how to handle the events that put you to the test?
It’s best to work with, or generally be with, people who are calm and not easily irritated. Reacting positively is not 100% possible but it is a good habit to develop.
People notice when you’re not listening to them and it’s totally annoying. We all need to feel that we are being listened to, especially when we consider that what we say is important.
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Don’t make a habit of canceling plans, especially at the last minute. Someone who always excuses himself or is too late for an event, appointment or any meeting, whether formal or informal, sends a negative message to others.
They will think that they are not really important to you and it is very difficult to deal with someone like that in the long run.
Think of all the times you’ve tried to make plans with your friends, but you couldn’t agree on each other’s obligations.
If you were the one who agreed to meet later, or a day later, you can be sure your friends really appreciated it. This kind of flexibility is very important when it comes to getting along with others.
It feels good when people pay attention to you when you tell a story or when you have something important to communicate, but if you constantly seek to focus on yourself, and don’t give others a chance to “shine”, it will be difficult for you. you fall well
We all deserve attention but we must also know how to give it.
We all like to be liked and be nice to others, but if you constantly fall into any of these habits, you should start thinking about how to change. Being a friendly and charismatic person costs nothing.
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