We all have skills that help us in our daily lives, some are more difficult to acquire than others. There are 6 skills that make a real difference in the results we get. How do you develop them? Here I show you some advice that entrepreneurial leaders offer.
1. Public Speaking
Whether in front of 10 or more than 100 people, knowing how to get your ideas across to a group will give your work/project visibility. Many prefer to work “anonymously” because it’s more convenient, but you don’t get the same recognition and your idea can take twice as long to spread. Still not convinced?
In an interview, Warren Buffett commented on the skills he considers essential for success: “You have to learn to communicate … If you can’t communicate, talk to other people and get your ideas across, you limit your potential. “
Now if you are wondering how can I start working on this skill? Practice, practice, practice. I know it’s obvious, but you can read any public speaking books, watch YouTube videos, take online courses, etc. Nothing compares to practice. Of course, there are always tips that you can implement in order to be able to communicate better in public.
- dealing with nerves: Amy Cuddy mentions in her book The Power of Presence how what we say before a presentation affects our performance. Before a speech, presentation, or conference, we usually say to those around us, “I’m nervous,” changing that phrase to “I’m excited” instantly changes the way our brain perceives the situation. There? Being nervous means expecting a negative outcome, being excited means expecting a positive outcome. Both emotions have the same intensity in the body, except that one is positive and the other negative, which is why it is possible to trick the brain and excite it instead of tensing it.
- Start with the impact: There is nothing worse than starting to speak and seeing the bored faces in your audience, it will undoubtedly only increase your nerves and everything will probably go downhill. Always start with an amazing statistic, story, or metaphor, whether it’s surprising, ridiculous, or relatable. After that you can introduce yourself. Forbidden to start a conversation and say who you are and what you do, affect your audience first.
- the rule 3: Are you afraid you’ll forget what you’re going to say? Structure your speech in 3 parts, it is the magic number and makes your message more memorable for your audience. The human mind can only process about 3 pieces of information in short term memory, if you’re still not sure check out the greatest speeches of all time and most ted talks, these were built around 3 idea keys reinforced with statistics and anecdotes were and examples.
2. Be honest with yourself
Am I really doing my best? Is there anything else I can do to improve my services/products? Am I true to my purpose? Am I really happy with this? The most difficult dialogue is the one we have to have with ourselves.
Most of us already know what we need to do to solve our problems. The difficult thing is taking action. This is where we need to be honest and recognize that often we are not doing what is best for us. One way to develop this skill is to…
honest goals: Suppose I decided to lose weight, now I could lie to myself by telling myself that it’s supposed to be healthier and tI have a better life, but maybe my HONEST goal is to be more attractive and look better in my clothes. Having honest goals is far more effective than lying to yourself for fear of saying the politically incorrect.
When setting goals, ask yourself: What is the honest goal behind that goal?
3. Be confident
Confidence is not just a trait of a few and has nothing to do with being an introvert or an extrovert. It’s an ability that develops like a muscle. It doesn’t grow overnight, it takes daily work. The interesting thing about trust is that it comes through action.
Put simply, how can we actually start trading? Mel Robbins offers us 3 simple keys:
- Dissolve big steps: The simple fact of thinking about how we achieve great goals is exhausting. If people had to know all the answers before starting a project, they would never start. Identify what you need to do first, suppose I want to start a YouTube channel. My mind could start creating a thousand scenarios and try to look for problems everywhere. It’s better to think, what do I have to do to start? Sign up for an account, think of a name and the topics you’re going to talk about, it’s easy.
- take small steps forward: So in the example above, taking small steps forward is much better than analyzing too much. The best thing about this move is being realistic and not wanting to take over the world in a single day. Once you start taking small steps forward, don’t stop.
- record your progress: That’s the most important. Recognizing what you have achieved keeps you strong and aware of what you are capable of. Of course, for this step to work, you must do the first two.
It’s hard to imagine anyone wanting to do anything without confidence, which is why working on this skill is essential, without a doubt it’s one of the most rewarding.
Richard Branson put it well: “No one has learned anything new by listening to themselves”. Echoing that phrase, he adds that the best entrepreneurs he’s met have excellent listening skills, especially when it comes to identifying the needs of the client and their team). If we really want to understand our environment, we must learn to listen to it.
If you’re one of those people who just can’t stop interrupting others, one piece of advice is to stop talking for a day. Just listen. It’s certainly not easy, it’s about acquiring a skill that not everyone has.
5. Manage the time
“If you never have time, you have no priorities.” – Tim Ferries
That’s the truth and it’s hard. We are one of the busiest generations and we think we are productive when we are busy. One way to recognize changes in our daily lives is to constantly ask ourselves:
Am I making up things I have to do so I don’t do what’s important?
Often we start with the easy tasks to avoid the uncomfortable.
Am I productive or just active?
“Time is wasted because there is too much” Think about the last time you needed to finish a project in a short amount of time, your concentration was probably at its peak and you managed to get what you did in a matter of hours usually much longer costs.
When we have time on our hands, our concentration wanes and we fill up on unnecessary tasks to fill the time we allocate to a task. It’s amazing how the brain works! One of the best examples to illustrate excess time is the 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. office hours. If you have that much time, we will do our best to fill it. You don’t need more time, you need more focus and priorities. People can increase their productivity by reducing their work hours and focusing on two priorities a day that really transform their day. To set priorities, this question is your best tool:
If this was the only thing I did today, would I be happy with what I achieved today?
In a nutshell: find out what are the few basic tasks that generate the most income and set clear and very short deadlines for completing them. – Tim Ferries
Time is the most precious thing we have and without it we are nothing. For this reason, knowing how to use them is one of the most important skills that we are going to develop.
6. Be consistent
We all have days when we lose motivation.
Here it comes down to having a purpose, working for something bigger than yourself (solving a big problem, improving the quality of life…) and discipline. If your goal doesn’t move you, chances are you’ll give up before you’ve achieved something you’re truly proud of.
How do I find purpose? It seems that having direction is a luxury few have, the truth is there are few people who make it a point to find out what they are passionate about. Once you realize it, it is necessary to develop that passion (no one is born perfect in any activity. I noticed several questions to think about:
- What did you like to do as a child?
- What would I do even if they didn’t pay me?
- What do I spend my money on the most?
- What do I like to do on Sunday afternoons or in my free time?
Take the time to identify yourself, it’s just a matter of self-discovery. Purpose keeps us consistent with our goals even when motivation leaves us.
So let’s say you’re aware of your goal, how can you stay consistent even when things aren’t going your way? Tony Robbins mentions that you should learn: Discipline your disappointment. This is one of the most important lessons, your dreams are destined to be tested, which is not difficult for us, we do not guess, it is acceptable to be disappointed, what is not acceptable is to stay there.
“Most great things in the world have been accomplished by people who kept trying when it seemed hopeless” – Dale Carnegie
We can all develop these skills and together with them create great projects, convey valuable ideas and make an impact in the world.
About the author, Nancy Garza
Nancy is a personal brander, co-founder of Identity-Image Consulting, Communication and Personal Branding, trainer at the Faculty of Communication Studies (UANL), enthusiast for social projects related to public education, author and passionate about human behavior. My main goal is to work with organizations, entrepreneurs and students to develop personal brands that make a mark and turn them into businesses to promote their ideas.