Which leads a person who achieves the greatest professional success that can be achieved in his work to remain composed and humble, and for others this same triumph means the beginning of a fall into the void. Why some like Donald Trump can put their name on all their buildings in big gold letters and accumulate women, one younger and blond than the other, and others, richer and more successful than him, like Bill Gates, prefer to carry on with jeans and sneakers and continues to share his life with the woman of all times.
In life, as in business or any other activity, success can be a blessing or a hindrance. Folk wisdom often contains undeniable truths and that is why phrases like “loneliness at the top” or “dying of success” become unchallengeable sentences. In fact, for the vast majority of specialists, it is easier to survive failure than success. This time, however, we give you some tips so that when the longed-for success has finally arrived, you can survive it and, above all, keep it.
matter of forms
First, we need to define what we mean by success, because depending on our own perception of this term, we will encounter it in one way or another. “In general you can say that it has two aspects, an external one that depends on the recognition of others, i.e. the social judgment that one has achieved something, and the internal one, the feeling of satisfaction at having achieved something. There are people who are looking for the first, people who are looking for the second, and another group that is longing for both,” says consultant Ovidio Peñalver.
In other words, there are two paths to success: the one who strives for it as an end in itself, or the one who achieves it through a job well done. When success is combined with the need for approval from others, it is easy to fall into vanity. “It has a lot to do with a lack of self-esteem and a strong desire to be talked about. There are even people who ask others to add them to Wikipedia,” Peñalver warns.
When success is a response to good work, “it’s harder to go to your head,” says coach José Pedro García. As the expert Alejandro Martín assures us, success depends on three factors: the skills, the environment and the people who have helped us. “If we don’t consider the three variables, the easiest way is not to survive success,” he adds.
How to stay up
To be successful you have to be reliable, have something to offer and be well known. To continue maintaining it, you must follow a number of guidelines:
– Don’t lower your guard. It’s important to continue preparing for this position, as well as for other supervisors. As the psychologist Tomás Álvarez explains: “Success must be understood with the completion of a stage and must not be confused with the arrival, because then the guard is lowered.”
– Keep your allies. Typically, when you pursue a goal, you build a successful network of contacts that propel you towards that goal. A common mistake is forgetting about the people who have helped us along the way and not bothering to keep growing our network.
– Manage success with the team. If nurturing the network of contacts that enabled you to reach the summit is important, it is even more important to be aware of who worked with you on this difficult task, and be able to Be generous with your team and recognize the merits of those who are by your side. It’s common that when people reach the top, they tend to get rid of the most critical agents on their team under the pretense that they’re very negative. Look for new targets. There is always a higher goal to strive for. The only way to stay in a position to succeed is to always strive for more.