As with a layoff, this shouldn’t come as a surprise. “Ideally, it’s the other party that tells you they want to leave,” says coach Amaia Helguera. “Once you’ve built trust with that person and done your homework along the lines of ‘We set ourselves these goals,’ you should ask them, ‘What is your motivation?’ Where do you put your energy? We have to see what we’ve achieved, what we’re achieving. And see what my motivation is, what I put my energy into. There is an acknowledgment from there,” he continues.
“We all change. It’s something legitimate. Mistakes are also often made when choosing a travel companion. But these mistakes should not be left to the imagination,” adds consultant and author Pilar Jericó, partner at BeUp. Sure, that’s the ideal situation The normal thing is that they don’t even tell you that they want to go and fulfill your wishes, nor have you set any previous goals What happens if our partner doesn’t say anything, if we haven’t set common goals and want to get rid of him ? “It’s a difficult situation. A world of fantasies, expectations and egos comes into play. Ideally, if there is no solution to a conflict, it will be resolved quickly. There are real prisons of gold. It’s also not wise to procrastinate on the friendship decision, thinking that it can be bypassed and that it will be resolved,” says the Be-Up partner.
Separate friendship and company
“If it’s a friend, you have to solve the friendship part outside of the company first: Let’s go for a drink. We take care of the company. They talk there like friends. And dramatize it: now we’re going to put aside our partner roles and go about our friendship. And then sit together as partners, in the office or in the meeting room. That’s important, because if you don’t, you’ll end up with emotional blackmail. You have to separate that,” says Helguera [este consejo es aplicable también a las disputas, no sólo a las rupturas].
“This separation helps not to mix and manage the emotional part so that the other isn’t blackmailing the situation: we’re going to talk about it factually and matter-of-factly,” he recommends. What if the relationship broke up? “If there is a breakup, you end up having to resort to legal help. And there, yes, you have previously established certain rules for selling shares. It comes down to trust and a desire to care for others and work honestly,” says Helguera. “In this case, it is always advisable to seek external advice,” adds Jericó. In addition, it often happens that many entrepreneurs make their employees partners.
“The exit barriers to this type of decision are usually traumatic. When things go well, everything goes well. But if he’s causing trouble since they made him an affiliate… you tell him I’ll buy you… and he replies that he won’t sell to you… and blocks the accounts from being approved. , exemplifies Carlos Delgado, President and CEO of Compensa Capital Humano. Again, you have to resort to the legal part to solve it.
What if the dispute has a solution…?
When choosing a partner, it is common – at least that’s what we gather from the magazine – to put together a similar team: either very technological or only with a marketing profile. There are few instances of multidisciplinary teams – ones where there is one technology expert, another who has the idea, and someone with a more business, more marketing side. And of course there are conflicts.
“Partners are people too. When you’re dating someone, you need to be aware of how you’re going to function if something goes wrong. In general, you don’t associate with someone you don’t know. You do it with enthusiasm, but you have to think about what you do when things don’t go well,” predicts Helguera.
“Since this is not usually the case, it is advisable to let the device sleep for a few hours if a problem arises. First you must put out the fire, then try to figure out what we have in common. Both parties want the company to do well, for us to make money and for the projects to continue. There are a number of issues that partners always agree on, so it’s a matter of looking for those commonalities. We have to take the part that separates us, listen to our partner,” continues the expert.